Listen, we’ve all been there. You’re standing naked in front of a mirror and you think to yourself, “Ugh, WTF!” It’s a really shitty feeling...I know. But let me tell you this - if you think feeling good naked is about how your body physically looks, you are dead WRONG. Feeling sexy when you’re naked is all about how you feel about yourself on the inside, not what your body looks like.  (Preach it to me, sista!)

Nike has a motto that says, “If you have a body, you’re an athlete.” Damn, I love that. Think about it like this…If you have a body, it already IS sexy.  That’s all there is to it! And it’s all up to you and how you think of yourself. You have a body, it’s beautiful, and you should be able to feel sexy, strong and attractive when you strip everything off and stand there naked in front of that mirror. It’s all about mindset and it really doesn’t matter if you are a supermodel, either, because they can feel just as insecure.

So, girls and boys, just in case you’re having one of those “ugh” kinda days, keep the following tips in mind about how to feel SEXY AS HELL when you’re naked, whether you’re standing in front of a mirror by yourself or stripping down for a hookup sesh with a partner. 

Your opinion is the only one that matters.

Body shaming is so common today, and it’s such bullshit! Screw a “societal expectation” that a hot body should be skinny, tall and perfectly hairless in the “right” places to be considered beautiful. What does that even mean?? Who decides what a “societal expectation” is, anyway? Focus on YOUR expectations, and what YOU think is beautiful and sexy. In relationships, everyone likes different things, and if you live your life trying to impress all of your partners, you will never be truly satisfied because everyone has their own perception of what is sexy. Set your own expectations for yourself - for your health, for happiness, for your pleasure. Let yourself be the only one who controls your happiness and satisfaction. And that confidence, my friends?  Now THAT is sexy. 

Confidence is key.

Let me tell you a little something about confidence; it is a powerful quality to have. When it comes to being naked and having sex, confidence is way more attractive to me than what my partner’s body looks like. Sexual confidence, however, is something that can be hard for people to achieve, especially if you haven’t had many partners.  Masturbating and using sex toys can be a fabulous way to determine what you like and don’t like, what it takes for you to orgasm, and ultimately increase your sexual confidence in the bedroom -- or shower, or kitchen counter -- whatever floats your boat! ;) The CalExotics Jack Rabbit is a great toy for women to try to help figure out what you like sexually because it has a lot of options for stimulation both inside and outside.  Men, I can’t speak firsthand, of course, but I hear the Apollo Stroker is a fun one to explore! 

Take care of your body.

Taking care of your body is about way more than just the number on your scale. Self-care is SO important for overall happiness and how you feel. So, spoil yourself! I spoil myself rotten when it comes to self-care (I love a good long massage). Believe me, self-care goes a long way when it comes to your attitude and confidence. Get enough rest, drink a lot of water, get a manicure, go on a walk, take care of your skin - you deserve it! When you feel good and taken care of by you, it’s easier to be happy with your overall physique. 

Focus on what you do have, not what you don’t have. 

Some girls have little boobs. Others have big butts and some have long legs. Some guys have smaller cocks. Others have tons of body hair and some have a flat butt. Remember, those physical aspects aren’t what makes you, YOU!  So, flaunt what you have, big or small, tall or short, and make yourself feel damn good about that. Own what you have and work it! Hell, twerk it even! 

Communication is important.

If you still feel insecure with your body, try this. Open up and talk about your physical insecurities and fears with your partner. You may be surprised! 

Feeling insecure is very normal, but most of the time insecurities are more about speculation. They stem from what you THINK someone wants your body to look like, not how they actually think or feel. If you let your partner know what you’re insecure about, they will probably reassure you that you’re perfect just the way you are. Speculation leads to anxiety, and communication is one of the best ways to make everything better and let you feel comfortable in your own body. 

So, next time you get naked, take a deep breath, relax and tell yourself, “Damn, I look FINE!”

~ Miranda Buzzlove