Wedding Gifts Not on a Registry — Sex Toys They Can Share

Fun fact: At every single wedding I attend, I always give a gift basket assortment of sexual health and pleasure products to the newly married couple.

Why? Because I know my gift will be more functional than brass napkin rings. Much more frequently used, and more fun to boot. Also, I know that even though sexuality is a massively important part of most peoples’ romantic relationships, everyone else is too bashful or traditional to give practical, non-gag gift items to help the couple with the sexual side of their marriage. So I do it.

Give one or more of the sex toy wedding gifts below, and join me in getting pulled aside at the reception and hearing, “I peeked inside your gift bag, and omg, thank you so much!”:

1. Sex Toys

A sex toy wedding gift that the newlyweds can use together is a staple in all my pleasure-giving gift bags.

I especially like the Passion Enhancer. Thoughtfully architected for mutual pleasure, this stretchy and comfortable penis ring with seven vibration functions provides stimulating fun for both partners during penis-vagina intercourse. While the groom enjoys wider girth and heightened sensitivity with more blood flow to his member, the bride will crave the intense pleasure-vibes on her g-spot. Crazy exciting sex culminates in ground-shaking orgasms with the Passion Enhancer. This gift will certainly not be tucked away in the china cabinet with the other gifts!

2. A Couples Sex Class

What is more valuable than an education, and especially sex education? A certificate to a couples’ workshop, sexuality retreat, or online course — like my 10-Day Foreplay Challenge or 10-Day Sexual Communication Challenge — is something the newlyweds can benefit from for years to come. We aren’t born knowing how to be astute communicators or adventurous lovers, especially with the level of intimacy and vulnerability involved in sex. Giving the new couple a class on the topic is a practical way to help them build a solid foundation of trust and openness at the start of their marriage.

3. Romance Kit

The Utopia Night of Romance Kit by CalExotics is a four-piece set of sex toys and teasers, ready-made for a sexy and sensual night together. No need to plan your erotic adventure — the kit does it all for you. The Romance Kit includes a bullet vibrator designed to pleasure both bride and groom at the same time during sex, a teasing foreplay card game that takes anticipation to the very edge, a sensual tickler feather, and a bottle of pheromone massage oil to bring next-level sensations anywhere on the body. The newlyweds will love this collection designed to help them explore physical touch in a variety of ways.

4. Sexy Photo Shoot

The newlywed couple will have a million beautiful, professional photos of themselves on their wedding day. But how about a gift card setting them up with a local photographer who specializes in sexy boudoir couples shoots? That way, they will have photos of their special day to share with family for decades to come, and a special private collection just for themselves, capturing the sexual energy between them when they got married. The intimate photos will remind just-marrieds of the joy and pleasure they have in sharing their bodies with each other, and remind them to keep those erotic fires stoked.

5. Couples Massage

Getting a couples massage is sweet, sensual, relaxing and indulgent, all at the same time. Since many men are shy about getting a massage, this is an opportunity to share a positive, calming experience with him. A spa gift card for a candlelit massage is a win!

6. Handcuffs

Soft and plush cuffs, like Scandal Universal Handcuffs by CalExotics, are a gift that lets the newlyweds play erotic games of control and submission. The Scandal cuffs provide a luxurious bondage experience with their comfy lining and high-quality brocade fabric. These cuffs are completely adjustable and can be used loosely or tightly on wrists and ankles. Universal clasps and nickel-free iron rings allow for endless creativity. Who will relinquish control while the other has their way? Newlyweds will love using the cuffs to explore and try out their own edgy sexual games.

Dr. Jill McDevitt is CalExotics' resident sexologist. She is also a sexuality educator, sexual wellness coach and unapologetic feel-good activist. Her mission is to radically improve the way we think about and treat sexuality, ourselves and each other.