Hi, my name is Miranda Buzzlove and I love my clitoris.  Like, I really love it - and you should, too. International Clitoris Week is May 6-12, which makes now the perfect time to talk about the clit and all of its erogenous glory!  But before I turn you on too much with all of my clit chit-chat (hehe), I have a public service announcement for everyone reading this blog post.  PSA: ALL VULVAS ARE BEAUTIFUL.

My vulva is beautiful, your vulva is beautiful - ALL of our vulvas are gorgeous and perfect just as they are.  Pardon my language, but f*$% any society and f*@% any person that places pressure on women to have more “beautiful” labias or more “designer vaginas.”  Our labias and clitorises are uniquely ours and anyone that tells you yours is less than gorgeous, well, they are shallow, horrible, and can go straight to hell as far as I’m concerned.

Now that I got that out of my system, let’s talk about how amazing the clit is!  For starters, the clitoris lacks a reproductive function, which means it exists simply for pleasure.  Hellz yes! The glans or “head” of the human clitoris is about the size and shape of a pea, but packs a powerful punch with approximately 8,000 nerve endings.  That’s more than twice as many than the male glans, by comparison. Muhahahaha!

What I find especially fascinating is that the clit varies in size and shape depending on the woman.  Fun, right? Some clitorises stick out, some are hidden under the hood, and they all enjoy different types of stimulation, which is why you can’t assume all women enjoy the same moves or feels (hint, hint)!   Some like gentle flicking, for instance, while others like a lot of pressure.  But it’s a hellova lotta fun to figure out what makes yours - and/or hers - tick.  A great way to explore is to get a vibrator with multiple speeds and functions. My fav is CalExotics’ Pave Grace, which has seven (damn lucky) functions and five speeds.  I have my favorite setting, of course, but you’ll have to get to know me better before I disclose that lil’ secret. ;)

It’s relatively easy to explore your own clit when you are in the comfort of your own bed with a multi-functioning vibrator.  It can be a whole other ballgame when exploring with your partner, particularly if he or she is a new partner for you. But I’m here to tell you that you shouldn’t be afraid to ask for what your clit craves.  Whether that’s dry humping, slow, deep heavy petting, or gentle kisses or licks, ask for what will make you feel good! Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed to speak the words out loud or even show your partner with your own fingers or lips. In fact, I’d be willing to bet that your partner will be even more into you when he or she sees how turned on you get when your clit is touched in the right way for you.

I’ll leave you with this reiteration.  Your clitoris is on your body for the sole purpose of pleasure.  It’s a gift, y’all, and one that keeps on giving your entire life.  Don’t forget to use it. Happy Clit Week!

~ Miranda Buzzlove